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My husband and I were so lucky to have been gifted with our son Derek 3 years ago, but our introduction to parenthood was not typical as our son was born with three separate birth defects. 

At my 20-week ultrasound, we learned our baby had a bilateral cleft lip, so two splits between his upper lip and nostrils. 1 in 700 children are born with a cleft lip and/or palate so it’s common, but they can be accompanied by several complications. I am a big planner, so it was extremely nerve-wracking to not know what challenges lie ahead. 

A brand new baby boy lays sleeping peacefully in a hospital toque and crib. He has a cleft lip.

Derek was born at KGH in May of 2020. My husband and I were so fortunate to be able to stay in the same room as our new baby, and even more lucky that all the additional testing he needed was available here. 

In addition to the bilateral cleft lip, he also had a little dimple near the base of his spine. He had to go for additional ultrasounds at KGH to ensure the dimple that formed where his spine fuses wasn’t leaking spinal fluid. We were so relieved when we learned it was closed and that we could check this off our list of concerns, but the ultrasound also revealed two holes in his little heart. 

It was a stressful time for us for several reasons, but everyone at KGH made us feel safe during the pandemic, and fully taken care of. Whatever questions or concerns we had; they were always there to support us. The nurses and doctors were all phenomenal.

After 5 days we were able to leave the hospital, but Derek still had numerous ongoing appointments as we weren’t out of the woods just yet. Cleft lips can be associated with complications surrounding feeding, breathing, and issues with the ears, nose, and teeth so we saw multiple specialists. 

From cardio ultrasounds for his heart, and appointments with pediatricians, speech pathologists, and a full cleft team, it was a lot at the beginning, but we felt so supported.

A mom is holding a 7-month old baby and smiling at him. The baby has bright blue eyes, blonde hair, a bilateral cleft lip, and an orange shirt with a bow tie. He's smiling and looking below the camera.

Luckily, he was such an easygoing baby, but it was a difficult time. I was in survivor mode, waking up every two hours to pump as I was determined to make the switch and keep him on breast milk. He went for cleft lip surgery when he was 4 months old and I’m proud to say our little rockstar recovered quickly.

When Derek was 8 months old, he started full-time daycare at the Y as I landed a manager position. He had to wear nose stents from 2 weeks to 1 year old, and the Y staff did a great job ensuring they stayed on and that the other kids wouldn’t remove them. They also helped with the daily lip massages he needed to help with his scarring. This added level of care really aided in his physical recovery.

I truly believe being in full-time care has improved his cognitive development as well. Cleft cases can come with speech difficulties, but Derek's educators report he has been able to pronounce and speak well beyond his years. His vocabulary is great and I credit this to the education he receives at his centre. 

The educators that look after Derek are incredible, they also help foster and encourage his interests. He absolutely loves golf and they often create golf games for him to play. 

A mother and folder are holding their 2 year old boy and looking down at him as they sit on a beach. The little boy has blue eyes, blonde hair, and is smiling up at the camera.

Today, we are so fortunate to say that Derek is absolutely thriving! A large part of this is because of the help we received at the hospital close to home and the development he has made in YMCA child care. We recently learned the holes in his heart have closed on their own, his spine is healthy, and his cleft lip surgery went great. 

It’s hard to imagine how different things would have been if we hadn’t had Derek at KGH, or if he hadn’t accessed such beneficial early learning resources in Y child care. We are so proud to see his athletic, and clever personality flourish, and look forward to him becoming a big brother soon!

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